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Ok, so I'm gisting with my roommate and we are discussing the silly things we did as teenagers.  Remember when you were busy making midnight calls to one boy that year, when you were sneaking around at night like a rat looking for a comfortable place for the call. I particularly remember how many times my mum seized my phone just because the noise from my laugher at night was so loud. If I tell you say I still remember the name of the boy I was talking to then, you know say I dey lie. That time you would willingly volunteer to fetch water so that you can have the time to meet your secret boyfriend and chat a little. If he buys something for you, you would also sneak into the house and then share it with your favorite sibling because if you give others they might tell on you. I remember how many times the food I was cooking got burnt simply because I was on 2go and my papa no dey hear that kind talk o, he would always deduct the estimated price of the kerosene spent on the b

A look at this picture would send a message. It just depends on the interpretation we give. Some would prefer to see it as focusing too much on the little things that the bigger or more important things gets ignored. Some others might interpret it as appreciating the little things and knowing that without the accumulation of the little, there might not be a bigger version. Whichever way we choose to look at things, events, or occurences in our lives, depends sorely on us. Everyone including you is entitled to their opinion but the way you choose to view life determines how you get to live it.  

Imagine being best friends with Telemundo the Indian Channel. Ridiculous right? Do you remember that passage of the Bible that says if men don't worship the Lord, He would raise stones to worship Him? Well,  I think same goes here, if people no longer value each other and decide  to no longer be friends, well, things like Telemundo take their place. Well, things haven't exactly been great for Mr. O.  He went from loosing his job to loosing his wife, then loosing his friends and getting a new job, winning his wife back to loosing his salary and loosing his wife again. The only thing he hasn't lost is his Faith, his Child and of course, his Telemundo.  I'm sure he didn't see this coming. He used to be a very happy and generous fellow who always had people around him. People he shared dreams, goals, and even names with. He isn't exactly the most attractive of men but his beautiful heart taught  some people that the content was of more value than the contain

Hmm!  I saw this video on instagram of people fighting in the House of Rep abi na House of Senate, I'm not so sure of the particular one, all I know is that there was a fight and the characters in this game of blows are men old enough to be my dad at least, men that are supposed to be examples, men that were put there to protect and fight for a  better life for us. I don't know what led to the fight sha but I was wondering if they use this same strength to fight for our rights as citizens and people under their care, if they can raise chairs to strike anyone that embezzles the money kept for the reconstruction of our roads and gutters to prevent cases of flood, if they throw blows at people that are behind the reason why Nigeria can't enjoy stable electricity, if they push anyone that tries to stop our students from going to school hence the ASUU strike Isorait! Sometimes the things we do, do not matter as much as how we do them. See as I see them dy fight, the fir

A Naija brother in "the abroad" would walk up to me say he doesn't like dating Nigerian girls. In my mind, I would be like "errmm, sorry I'm not Portuguese, Russian or even Chinese 🙄" ,  he would go on to say "I don't know why I just like you, in fact you are the first Nigerian girl I've asked out since I left naija " . You won't believe the number of guys that have said this to me. I'm beginning to wonder if there is a problem with being a Nigerian girl outside Nigeria. Is there something in the air which we unconsciously take in that probably changes us that Nigerian guys living outside Nigeria don't inhale? Abi is it just because of  "green card" ? I honestly don't know why our men would come to the conclusion that Nigerian  women are totally unworthy of their love when they are not longer in their home country. The only reason they might want to even talk to you won't be far from eating Nigerian food,

      I know I'm not the only person in this situation.         The world has taught us that to enjoy it,  we need to showcase our talent, bring forth our gifts and probably with a little touch here and there, we would make it in life.      Well, some of us don't actually have something we can call our talent or our gifts. I personally have tried to figure out what I love doing or something I'm really good at but I've come up with nothing because today, I'm good at writing or cooking and tomorrow, just like that, I find out that I'm not interested anymore. The only reasonable explanation I can give is "I'm not in the mood " to carry out that activity. It reaches down to things as well. At first I thought I loved perfumes so much but then I found out that I could go months without using any and still feel just fine. Same goes with jewelry, hand bag and some other things other ladies go crazy for. I don't have a favourite food or color or thin

      The summer holiday was gradually coming to an end. She had just 1 week left before the new semester would commence and she couldn't bring herself to think that she didn't really travel as she planned to and  for a traveller, it wasn't a good holiday.    She was supposed to be in France improving her French language, having fun with her cousins and generally enjoying the scene with a breath of fresh air but here she is, stuck and forced to take a review of life, wondering why people need visas to visit other countries, why things don't always go the way we plan and generally why life is so unpredictably difficult.     Just to amuse herself, she decided to make a trip to another city within the country for a week. It was there it dawned on her that her love for traveling didn't come simply because she was going to a new place, it was actually because of the attitude behind the journey, the thrill of planning the trip, the places you want to visit, the people

                       We live by our words        When people do or talk about something a lot, it slowly becomes part of them. These things find a way to settle in and that's why it's important to talk or do the right things. For instance, if one talks about being kind to others a lot, with time he would find himself practicing the act of kindness. Before he realizes it, kindness would be a way of life for him such that without a single act of kindness done, he won't feel sane.      Same goes when we talk about the wrong things, cheating, corruption, sexual immorality and the likes, with time, we don't get to see the evils in these things anymore. We laugh about them, create memes about them, indirectly promoting these things such that they become so popular that no one sees the extent they've come in ruining our lives and society. They creep into our lives and become part of our lifestyles and when we realize what has happened, it would not be very easy to mak

                      Fight for your Love              For my readers who are Christians, have you ever been in a position where you felt you needed to grow your relationship with God, you want something more than just pray and read the Bible, you actually want to hear him speak directly to you, as a result, you fast and pray tirelessly for a deeper understanding of Him, even gave up your old ways, things you know or feel aren't giving Him glory, you start listening to preachings online, you even delete your worldly songs and download a lot of Gospel songs.  You do all these and more, only to find yourself sinking deeper in sin after a while, you begin to repeat the evils you gave up in the past but this time, it feels worse. This could probably be because during this process, you've asked God for something but it felt like your prayers weren't answered,  so probably out of unintended rebellion, you find yourself backsliding.            Please don't give up fighting

                      Made in Naija           Whenever we hear a product is made outside Nigeria, we immediately believe it has a better quality compared to the products produced here in Nigeria. But come to think of it, who would believe the artisans in Aba or Onitsha can produce something better than the Italian products and designers abroad. What raw materials and machines do they use to make their products last longer?  And who thinks 'Shrap' is better than 'Sharp' or 'Gucki ' is better than 'Gucci'?          The government too doesn't help. They don't fund or patronize these artisans, probably because they don't trust their quality or maybe they believe nothing good can come out of Nigeria, whatever be the case, I believe we as Nigerians can only be better promoters of our own goods. We believe  because these home made goods are cheaper, they are for the poor but that's not a right way to think.         In other foreign countrie

Hey guys, Just read this selfless act of love and it made my eyes misty. Worth Reading..! By P Narayana Murthy My wife called, 'How long will you be with that newspaper? Will you come here and make your darling daughter eat her food? I tossed the paper away and rushed to the scene. My only daughter, Sindu, looked frightened; tears were welling up in her eyes. In front of her was a bowl filled to its brim with curd rice. Sindu is a nice child, quite and intelligent for her age. I picked up the bowl. 'Sindu, darling, why don't you take a few mouthful of this curd rice? Just for Dad's sake, dear'. Sindu softened a bit and wiped her tears with the back of her hands. 'Ok, Dad. I will eat - not just a few mouthfuls, but the whole lot of this. But, you should...' Sindu hesitated...... 'Dad, if I eat this entire curd Rice, will you give me whatever I ask for?' 'Promise'. I covered the pink soft hand extended by my daughter with mine,

      The Problem with Wanting to be Heard                 Have you ever been in a situation where you strongly want to air your view, probably because you feel oppressed or just because you want to talk and when the opportunity is given to you, you just end up not making sense?     I was in a bus one day with a group of people from different countries and cultures, these people were in two culturally diverse groups who knew each other based on where they were coming from.  Half way into the journey, the  first group started a song to lighten the mood and they were singing amongst themselves, the songs were mostly in English so people like me could understand and enjoy the songs as well, after a while, the second group started singing too as though it was a face off but the problem was that the song was in their indigenous language so most people didn't understand, now a once melodies environment changed to a noisy battle ground not just because the song wasn't understood b

                   The Real Position of Women Often times, this has been a regular debate amongst people. Where should a woman be placed in the society. Some people say she should be below the man since he is her superior and of course the "weaker vessel ". This idea is particular to the "old schools " as the case may be, those that are traditional in thinking.  Others think women should be placed on the same level with the man, hence the feminist movement. They think women should enjoy the same privileges as men do so there should not be any discrimination on the grounds of sex. This idea is particular to people who claim to be " modern ", they believe time changes everything and it's best if we change with time. Come to think of it. The world has been in a state of unrest because women do not really understand where they are placed, but to me, I think a woman is as flexible as anything flexible. She is places herself anywhere she fits into in ord