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The Problem with Wanting to be Heard

      The Problem with Wanting to be Heard
         
      Have you ever been in a situation where you strongly want to air your view, probably because you feel oppressed or just because you want to talk and when the opportunity is given to you, you just end up not making sense?
 
  I was in a bus one day with a group of people from different countries and cultures, these people were in two culturally diverse groups who knew each other based on where they were coming from.  Half way into the journey, the  first group started a song to lighten the mood and they were singing amongst themselves, the songs were mostly in English so people like me could understand and enjoy the songs as well, after a while, the second group started singing too as though it was a face off but the problem was that the song was in their indigenous language so most people didn't understand, now a once melodies environment changed to a noisy battle ground not just because the song wasn't understood but also because it was sung in a way that gave an impression of a fight going on.
   
   Point is, sometimes we want to be heard but then we end up saying something that shouldn't have been said. Maybe before we say something we should first think to ourselves, "would I want to hear what I'm about to say now? "

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