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The Blank Slate

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When people say "just be yourself", I find it difficult to really understand what they mean because sometimes, I am even sure what it's like to be me... don't look at me that way, I'm sure the thought has crossed your mind too.

The funny part is that when you have to go for something serious like an interview or to give a speech while telling you to be yourself, they also say you should be confident, be funny, be this and that, what if me being myself is just me being boring and being shy and being messy?

Again, have you noticed that we tend to pick up characteristics (sometimes unconsciously )when we hang out or date certain people? For instance, if you did not eat chocolates a lot, you might notice an increase in the quantity of chocolate you eat when you have a close friend who you hang out with a lot that loves eating chocolates. The same thing goes when you naturally don't talk much about your feelings but being in a relationship with someone that likes to express their feelings makes you learn how to be more expressive about yours. Sometimes we tend to like the things we pick up from our associations with others, hence we inculcate such habits. This makes me wonder what the "self" we should actually be when people ask us to be ourselves is, isn't it funny that we are made up of tiny bits of the people that come into our lives and associate with. Come to think of it, a saying goes, "show me your friend and I will show you who you are".

I guess at birth, our brains are blank slates but as we go on in life, the slate gradually becomes full. We should be more conscious of attitudes and habits we tend to assimilate with our association with people, it's cool to pick up healthy and productive traits that would make us have a better life but traits like speaking negatively, gossiping, envy and the likes should not be part of our collection.
someone said, "life is long and we would be different people before the end", try to be the best version of you.

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