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Good but not Good for Me


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    "He is such a nice person, but I feel like I shouldn't be dating him" .

    Sometimes, some of us make this statement or know someone who has made this kind of statement. It could be the other way around, "she is great but I don't feel anything for her".

     A lot of people are in relationships with people they consider as being nice, kind or show some interest in them but somehow some people don't know when the line is drawn between being good and being good for someonesomeone, these are entirely two different things.
Someone might be so caring but they don't speak your love language, they might be so generous but you keep questioning why you are with them in a relationship, you keep looking for ways to leave the relationship because it doesn't feel right but then you don't know how to leave because the said people are just so good that you can't even come up with a reasonable reason to escape.

     I don't know if any of you or anyone you know has been or already is in this kind of relationship but the simple solution is to open up to whoever you are in the relationship with, tell them what you feel and how uncomfortable you are and if they are really nice, they would try to see things from your perspective because being alone is better than being in a suffocating relationship, it's just like being in a well furnished apartment with everything you ever wanted but you are constantly gazing out the window expecting something else. 

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  1. Unknown19 May 2018 at 21:46

    Hahaha. You know something's are better left untalked about. Time as always have is ways of showing us the light

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